这些村子,妈妈们竟然都“不见了”?

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小编:在这些地方,妈妈成为一种“奢侈品”。所

  在这些地方,妈妈成为一种“奢侈品”。 

  又是一年母亲节。想必各位都已经使出浑身解数,取悦了家里那位“女王”了。

这些村子,妈妈们竟然都“不见了”?

  如果说这世上有什么是最宝贵的,我想妈妈的陪伴算是一种。我们很多人一直把母亲的陪伴和付出视为理所当然的事情。

  但这个世界是很多元的。“母亲”的含义,以及孩子和母亲的关系,在世界各地有不同的注解。

  在印尼,有这样一些村落,鲜有妈妈们的身影 。当地小孩们,很多并不是妈妈带大的。

  这些村落因此甚至被命名为“少母村 ”。

这些村子,妈妈们竟然都“不见了”?

Via BBC;在“少母村”长大的孩子们

  “少母村”是如何产生的?

  In eastern Indonesia there are areas where almost all young mothers have gone to work abroad. Indonesians refer to these communities as the "motherless villages".

  在印度东部地区,当地几乎所有年轻的母亲们都去国外工作了。印尼当地人称这些地区为“少母村”。

  Millions of Indonesian women have left their families behind to work abroad. The East Lombok district exports the most people.

  几百万的印尼女性离开了他们的家庭,出国工作。印尼东部一个叫龙目岛(Lombok)的地区,是劳动力输出重地。

  Most of the men here work as farmers or labourers, earning a fraction of what the women can make as domestic workers or nannies overseas.

  龙目岛的男人们很多都在务农,或是干些体力活。他们赚的钱远比不上当地的女人。这些女人在国外做家政或是保姆的工作。

  Via BBC

  为了赚更多钱,这些女人出国离家,造成了当地一种特殊的现象:她们的子女们在没有母亲陪伴的环境下长大。

  缺少了母亲的陪伴,当地的孩子们的人生发生了怎样的改变?这些孩子们与母亲的感情,是否因此有所改变?

这些村子,妈妈们竟然都“不见了”?

Via BBC;Karimatul with Baiq, her aunt

  Karimatul Adibia's mother left when she was one year old, so she cannot even remember a time when they lived together.

这些村子,妈妈们竟然都“不见了”?

  一位名为Karimatul Adibia的女孩,说她妈妈在她一岁左右就离家了;因此,她甚至想不起任何与母亲共同生活的画面。

  It wasn't until she had nearly finished primary school that her mother was able to travel home to see her.

  直到她差不多小学毕业的时候,她的妈妈才有机会偶尔回家看看她。

  But by this stage Karimatul looked upon her aunt, the woman who had raised her, as her mother.

  但那时,Karimatul 已经把抚养她长大的阿姨,视为自己的妈妈了。

  "I was so confused," Karimatul says. "I remember my mum was crying. She said to my aunt, 'Why doesn't my daughter know she is mine?'

  “我记得当时我妈在哭。她对我阿姨说‘为什么我自己亲女儿不知道我才是她妈妈?' 她的话让我很疑惑。”

  Karimatul's aunt replied that they had no photograph of her, and that all Karimatul knew about her mother was her name and address, so it was no wonder she was finding it all hard to understand.

  Karimatul的阿姨解释说,他们没有照片,Karimatul 从小也只知道妈妈的名字和地址,因此Karimatul很难理解‘她才是妈妈’也就不足为奇了。

  "I felt this overwhelming feeling that I had really missed her, but at the same time I felt kind of angry that she had left me since I was young," Karimatul says.

  Karimatul :“(见到我亲妈后)我强烈地感觉到,我曾经非常想念她。但同时,我内心也有种怨气,气她在我那么小的时候就离开了我。”

  Via BBC

这些村子,妈妈们竟然都“不见了”?

Via BBC;Karimatul

  尽管一开始感到疏离,现在13岁的Karimatul现在几乎每晚都会跟妈妈视频通话,也会时不时发短信。但Karimatul 表示,维持这段母女关系,还是有一丝丝艰难。

  "Even when my mum comes home for breaks now, I want to stay with my aunt. She asks me to stay with her but I just say I will come later."

  “哪怕我亲妈放假时回来看我了,我还是想跟我阿姨待一块儿。我妈让我陪着她,但我会说‘我晚点再过来’。”

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